Coaching F.A.Q

FAQ's about Coaching:

Q: What is coaching?
A: Coaching is considered one of Forbes most up and coming jobs in 2006. It is a relationship/partnership where your life is the focal point of the time. We process though present issues in your life that may be holding you back from the life you are supposed to be living. I get the privilege of giving you feed back, encouragement and tools to assist you in moving forward. The session focuses on what you need and desire to work on.

Q: Is it like counseling?
A: No. It is different. Counseling focuses more on past issues and honors your pain and hurt. Coaching is different in that you focus on the present and future. It is a proactive, fast paced process. Clients that come in are open to change, new ideas and ready to take personal responsibility for their lives.

Q: What kind of commitment is coaching?
A: Typically, I meet with clients one to two times a month for 1-11/2 hour sessions. We process through current issues and the client is then given a homework assignment pertaining to the session. I usually recommend a three month commitment and then as needed by the client. My hope is to coach myself out of a job.

Q: How will I know if it is for me?
A: I give you one free session to see if coaching is the right thing for you. This also enables you and I to decide if I am the right coach for you. If not, I would be glad to give you some recommendations.

Q: What makes you good coach for baseball wives?
A: What makes me a unique coach is that I am not empathetic toward your life because I actually live your life. Paul and I have been in baseball together for 13 years. In that time we have practically seen and done it all. We've played in the minor leagues, been broke and had money, dealt with tough baseball family issues, have been traded, waivered, sent down and injured. And like you, we've had many arguments about whose job is harder. I am also trustworthy. No one needs to know we are working together unless you tell them. People who know me in baseball know I am more about healing and positive interactions rather than division and cattiness.

Q: Do you only work with baseball wives?
A: No. I actually have had several different clients. I also have a heart to work with girlfriends and fiances as well as non-baseball clients. Again it is more about us being a good fit for one another.

Q: I'm not sure about how I feel about God? Will you cram religion down my throat?
A: I am a Christian and I make that very clear from the start. I do not feel I have to overload anyone with my beliefs. My personal convictions and values are from a Christian belief system. Typically, There are certain things I cannot compromise on without losing my authenticity.

Are you a Coaching Team Player? Take the quiz.

1.When your guy is away what do you eat for dinner?
    a. A bowl of cereal
    b. Eat a normal meal
    c. Too depressed to eat

2.What is your response when he comes home?
    a. "I am soooo bored."
    b. "How was the trip? Glad your home."
    c. "It must be nice to shower, watch TV, do what you love and sleep in."
    d. "Here are the kids. I'm outta here."

3.What is your hobby?
    a. Washing laundry
    b.a mix taking good care of me and my family
    c.gossipping about other wives
    d.waiting for your guy to call

4.Do you know what your gifts, strengths and weaknesses are?
    a. No
    b. Yes

5. True/False "Sometimes I feel like no one really wants to know me. They are just interested in my guy."

6. How would you describe the seasonal lifestyle you live?
    a. Chaotic
    b.Adventurous but good
   c.Relaxing
   d.Exhausting

7. Have you moved more than 3 times in the last year?
    a.Yes
   b.No

8. How do you deal with all the people who want a piece of your life?
   a.Resent them
    b.Set healthy boundaries for you and your family
    c.Accomodate everyone else even if you are stressed

9. When you are around other baseball girls you:
    a. Feel insecure and worry what they are thinking
    b. You're comfortable in your own skin
   c. Jealous and comparing yourself to them

10. How open are you to being responsible for your life? Which statement would most likely represent you?
   a. "My life would be better if _______ would just change."
   b. "I know I need to work on some things. My life could be so much better."
    c. "Life will get better when we...get to the Big Leagues, sign for millions, get called up."

If you answered True or a,c or d for any of the answers above, life coaching may be for you. I am different from most coaches in that I have lived your life. I have lived through trades, injuries, the minor leagues, money issues, raising kids in baseball and marital problems. It is a hard life and to be a wife you need to be strong. But you need support and encouragement.

That's where I come in